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Practical Optimism Can Save Your Dating Life ft Dr. Sue Varma

Jun 30, 2026 · 47m

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About this episode

Psychiatrist and couples therapist Dr. Sue Varma joins Matchmaker Maria to explain why optimism isn't something you're born with, it's a skill you can build. They break down the difference between healthy realism and catastrophizing, why overthinking keeps people single, and how "maximizers" sabotage dating by chasing endless options. Plus, they answer a listener question about a boyfriend who's afraid to take the next step toward marriage and whether it's your job to fix your partner's fears. If dating has started to feel hopeless, this episode shares practical ways to change your mindset without falling into toxic positivity. ♥️JOIN MARIA'S COMMUNITY + SUBMIT A QUESTION ❓ Ready to date…