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Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

High Achievers and Marriage

Jul 7, 2026 · 1h 5m

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Join us in NEW ZEALAND! We like to think that proficiency at work carries over into our personal relationships, but excelling in a career and excelling in love draw on entirely different strengths. High-demand careers reward constant competence, and it feels good to have a system built around you, where people defer to you because it's their job, but a spouse sees the version of you that colleagues and patients almost never do, including your shortcomings and missteps. That exposure is uncomfortable, especially for someone used to having everything together, so many find it easier to hide in their competence at work than show up honestly at home. In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins…