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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

538. When Do You Choose to be Angry?

Oct 22, 2026 · 12m

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Women are taught that anger makes us difficult, irrational, or unlikeable, while men’s anger is often treated as justified or even heroic. So what happens when you learn to suppress your anger, even when something genuinely matters to you? In this episode, I share a coaching story about a client who was angry about the unequal division of household labor in her marriage and refused to accept the idea that her anger was the problem. We talk about how women are socialized to repress anger and why that can come at a real cost. I’ll explain why anger is a normal human emotion, but that does not mean every angry reaction is useful or aligned with your values. You’ll learn how to distinguish…