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How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Bucket Emptying: When Your Toddler Hits, Bites, or Hurts Other Children

Oct 26, 2026 · 24m

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Has your toddler ever bitten another child, hit a sibling, or shoved someone at the playground? Have they ever lashed out in a way that left you feeling shocked, embarrassed, or judged? In this episode, I explain why toddlers hit, bite and hurt other children , and why these behaviours are far more developmentally normal than most parents realise. I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening inside your child’s brain, why it’s almost never aggression in the way we understand it, and how hitting and biting is less about naughtiness, and more about overwhelm. I am going to share the three most important things you can do : how to respond calmly and effectively in the moment, how to build…