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The Human Experiment

The Human Experiment

Why Does Rejection Hurt So Much? The Psychology of Belonging, Ostracism & Social Pain

Sep 6, 2026 · 45m

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Why does rejection hurt so much? This episode explores the psychology of rejection, belonging, ostracism, social pain, rejection sensitivity, romantic loss, and the brain. Through Cyberball, social psychology research, neuroscience, and behavioral science, we examine why exclusion can threaten belonging, self-esteem, control, and meaningful existence and why the story we tell ourselves about rejection can sometimes become more powerful than the rejection itself.