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Why Is It So Hard to Say No? The Psychology Behind People-Pleasing | Dr. Vanessa Bohns #22
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What if saying yes when you mean no isn't a boundary problem, but a predictable feature of how your brain protects your place in the group? "No is a complete sentence" sounds simple, but the research says the moment of being asked is anything but. In this episode of The XX Lab, I sit down with Dr. Vanessa Bohns, social psychologist, Cornell professor of organizational behavior, and author of the new book Should I Say Something? We explore compliance vs consent, why we underestimate how often people say yes, the persuasion tactics salespeople use, how to say no to a boss or a date, and when it's worth speaking up. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Compliance is just behavior. Consent means you truly felt free…